In our language it is absolutely normal to use relative physical locations to describe relationships. Why are we not making use of this hidden knowledge?

An archaic Knowledge

Whether we are Vietnamese or German or Sudanese, we all know exactly, what it means to say:

  1. “She has an influential person behind her.”
  2. “The exam is an obstacle standing between him and a new assignment.”
  3. “His way to work is miles away from what is expected.”

All three sentences show a relationship between people or between people and (abstract) objects. And they describe the relationship by referring to a location.

So, when one person in 1) stands behind another person, it means that the person in the back is supporting the one in the front. And in 2), there is obviously no tangible object standing between someone and his assignment, that he has to physically overcome.

As well as in 3) a large physical distance is just synonymous to a big difference between expectations and reality.

And we all understand physical locations describing actual relationships, because all our languages have evolved in a similar way: where a physical location describes relationships

But often our Relationships are difficult

We also know that our entire life, our functioning in family work and society depends on our relationships. And most times these relationships are rather difficult. We invest a large part of our time to grasp and improve our relationships with people or with things (like overcoming an obstacle). However, we hardly ever use our intuitive knowledge about the direct connection between physical location and our relationships. Why do we not simply physically look at our relationships in order to understand them better.

Systemic Constellation makes Relationships tangible

Well, we actually do it: in Systemic Constellation we create a physical picture of our relationships. Through this, we activate our archaic knowledge about our relationships. And it helps us to understand, where we are “standing” in our family or in our team, and what we need to do in order to move, to develop, or just in order to stay happy where we already are.

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